Which is better…Journey or Destination?
If you refer to the fable, the Tortoise and the Hare you can see two examples. The Hare is a good representation of Destination as the Tortoise is an example of the Journey person.
We tend to lean towards one or the other. I like to think about it this way…
We’ve all been on a Road Trip. Are you the type that can’t wait to get to the destination or do you prefer the trip itself…the journey.
Some characteristics of both are…
Destination People are Driven, Focused and Successful
Journey People are Care Free, Happy, Enjoy Life
Some downfalls of each are…
Destination People — although they get to their destination, they don’t really enjoy the ride getting there and once they accomplish their goal, they don’t appreciate the achievement, instead they ask What’s Next?
Journey People often enjoy the ride so much they get distracted and sometimes never make it to their goal.
So, What’s Better? Journey or Destination…
Although, I lean towards the Journey side, in my opinion, the best is to be a hybrid.
For more detail and how to be a hybrid check out the 4 minute video…
Did you know, when you swallow gum it stays in your stomach for 7 years!
If you believe that, I have some land I’d like to sell you ;)
Growing up we were told things that were not true…cracking your knuckles causes arthritis, if you cross your eyes they will eventually stay that way,and there are many more.
As we got older many of us found out that we were lied to!
The crazy thing is, as we get older, we still believe what we are told without questioning it. Friends, Family, Coworkers, and the media feed us information all the time. How often do you actually check to see if what you are hearing is true?
It’s like the game Telephone when you were a kid. Someone starts with a word or phrase and by the end it is a completely different word or phrase.
If you hear something and don’t check the validity you are simply living someone else’s Truth or Lie!
Starting today, begin to Question Everything! Not to be a total skeptic, but to enlighten yourself to knowledge and truth.
This 3 minute video goes a bit more into “Questioning Everything” I hope you enjoy!
When was the last time you became motivated?
Was it today when you were scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and you saw a motivational quote? Maybe you stepped on the scale last night and thought, it’s time!
What happened right after you saw the quote or stepped off the scale? You go back to life as is and forget about that thought of bettering yourself.
So, what lies between Motivation and Success? The answer…PERSISTENCE!
Tim Ferriss, who wrote The 4 Hour Workweek, which he is best known for is a great example. Besides writing The 4 Hour, which has sold over 1.3 million copies, he has authored several other best sellers. He also has “The Tim Ferriss Show” a podcast that has over 80 million download as of 2016, Oh and he is an advisor to Facebook, Twitter and Uber, to name a few.
Tim is a perfect example of Persistence as when he was trying to get The 4 Hour Workweek Published he was rejected by the first publisher, and the second…and the third. In fact, he was rejected by the first 25 publishers he went to.
It was the 26th publisher who said yes. They didn’t say yes because they thought it was the best book in the world, but because Tim had been persistent in his pursuit of his dream and believed in him and his drive that would make the book a success. I guess they were right!
Motivation is easy. Success is hard. So, what are you gonna do with your motivation?
How do you take your motivation and turn it into success? Persistence.
What does that mean?
Here are three keys to take your motivation and create success from it.
1) Write it Down — You are 42% more likely to do something if you write it down.
2) Understand Your WHY — Your Why will get you through the tough times…it’s what got Tim to the 26th publisher who finally said yes.
3) Develop a Plan — You must create a detailed plan with Daily Action Steps!
The below video explains in a bit more detail how to become successful!
Mindset is defined as an attitude, disposition, mood, intention or inclination. It can also be said that your mindset is the way you think.
There are two primary Mindsets that people have…Fixed or Growth. Below you will see the differences between the two, but on the surface level…
Fixed is…you are who you are…you good at something or your not.
Growth is…you have the ability to learn, develop and become whoever you want to be.
Which one are you?
Just like many things, we become the product of our environment, so depending on your parents, family, friends, teachers you fall heavily into one or the other.
Here are some examples of famous Growth Mindset individuals and the obstacles they had to overcome.
Can you imagine if even one of them had a fixed mindset and when the rejection came their way, they gave up…wow, we would have missed out on their genius.
So, I come back to the question…which are you?
If you find yourself falling into the fixed, good news….you can change!
We have the ability to change our mindset from minute to minute if we wish, but overall there is the fixed and growth dominance.
In the video below I talk about the above as well as a study of 100’s of kids who were put into either a fixed or growth and see what happens…the results may shock you.
If you have kids, I strongly recommend you watch.
I will also give you the 3 keys to switching your mindset to Growth and living a happier life!
How often do you think about your breath? Not whether it is good or bad, but the process of breathing in and out.
The answer is almost always…NEVER!
Breath is life! If we stop breathing, guess what…we die.
Think about this….when you exhale, you get rid of 70% of the toxins in your body…that’s crazy!
The benefits of taking a slow, deep breath are many. Besides the toxins you get rid of which allows you to live a healthier life, it decreases your appetite and calms you down.
In fact, when you take a slow, deep breath, especially if your exhale is longer than your inhale, you activate your Parasympathetic Nervous system, which is also known as the “rest and digest” system.
We live most of our days/lives in the Sympathetic which is the “Fight or Flight” system.
Fight or Flight is good if a Sabertooth Tiger is chasing you, but being in the state chronically can wreak havoc on your body.
This is all good stuff, but how can you control your life by controlling your breath?
An example is when our emotions come up, they take approximately 5–7 seconds.If we don’t catch them before they have made themselves present, many times we become slaves to them. Take anxiety or fear. Once an emotion arises, we are just along for the ride…it could be 30 seconds, 30 minutes or 3 days before we gain control of our emotional state.
When you learn to recognize an emotion that is starting to arise, stop and take one slow, deep breath, you have just taken control of the emotion by recognizing it.
If you can learn to connect your breath with everything you do…you can take control of your life!
Below is a 6 minute video of me explaining these concepts. Do yourself a favor and watch the video and then apply it to your mindset.